Bride forces maid-of-honor to give up her seat so her dog can sit next to her, is confused when she is upset: ‘If Luna is taking your seat, then she can also take your role'

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    AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding after she asked me to give up my seat for her dog?
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    I (28F) have a sister, Sarah (32F), who is getting married in a few weeks. We've always been close, but recently, things have been tense between us. Sarah is one of those people who absolutely adores her dog, Luna. Don't get me wrong, I love animals too, but Sarah treats Luna like her child. That's all fine, but it's starting to affect her relationships with actual people.
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    Sarah is having a small, intimate wedding with about 30 guests. I was thrilled when she asked me to be her Maid of Honor. We spent months planning and making sure everything was perfect. But then, about two weeks ago, Sarah dropped a bombshell on me. She told me
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    that she wanted Luna to have a special role in the wedding, which I thought was sweet. However, she then asked if I would be okay with giving up my seat at the head table so that Luna could sit next to her during the reception.
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    At first, I thought she was joking. But when I realized she was serious, I was shocked. I asked her why Luna couldn't sit on the floor or at a different table, but Sarah insisted that Luna needs to be right next to her because she gets anxious around crowds. She even said that I could sit with the other bridesmaids or find another seat somewhere else in the room.
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    I told her I wasn't comfortable with that. I've been excited to be part of her big day, but it feels really hurtful to be asked to give up my place for a dog. I'm her sister and her Maid of Honor, and I just think it's disrespectful to treat me like an afterthought.
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    Sarah got upset and said I was being unreasonable. She said that Luna is like her baby and that I should understand how important it is for her to be comfortable. When I told her I might not come to the wedding if she insisted on this, she accused me of trying to sabotage her day and said that if I really loved her, I'd do this one small thing for her.
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    I haven't talked to her since our argument, and now I'm wondering if I'm the one being selfish here. My mom thinks I should just go along with it to keep the peace, but my friends are saying that Sarah is out of line.
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    AITA for refusing to attend the wedding if I have to give up my seat for her dog?
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    JagwarDSauron · 4 hr. ago NTA Quick reminder for everyone: "If you really loved me, you would..." is the most obvious manipulative set of words. If you ever hear these, you should automatically know that you are not an
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    neo_sporin 1 hr. ago 90% of the time, the correct response is "if you really love ME you wouldn't even be asking such an asinine question"
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    HospitalCorrect 9711. 5 hr. ago NTA, I understand that it is her day she can have whatever she wishes but her request is . Why should you have to give up your seat for a dog. Could the dog fit next to her and you on the other side?
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    After all the help you have provided she could at least let you sit in the seat. I'll probably get hate for this too but dogs do not belong at the table, it's unhygienic.
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    Lucky-Effective-1564. 5 hr. ago NTA. I hope she's not expecting you to make a speech you could really go to town on the ridiculousness of this. Or tell her f*ing dog to make the speech.
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    Drazilou 4 hr. ago Anytime I read 'X told me to go along with it to keep the peace, aita?' it is definitely NTA. 'keeping the peace' is a euphemism for 'give in to the AH demands'.
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    Simple_Carpet_9946. 4 hr. ago Will the venue even allow this?
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    Gizmodevilcat 5 hr. ago. • NTA, but think of the fun you could have by telling everyone why you're not sitting next to your sister. Eat, drink, and have fun with it!
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    • SpecialistAfter511 4 hr. ago NTA I'd tell her it doesn't sound like she needs me as her MOH and I'll just be a guest and sit wherever. it's odd she has planned seating for everyone but you???? You can still attend. No reason not to. I just don't see the point in being a MOH.
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    HotFox4151 · 4 hr. ago Why isn't she just adding an extra chair to the top table? It's not like the dog is going to eat the same food as the guests is it? Having said that, I wouldn't go. If anyone asked me, I would just say that my sister replaced my role of maid of honour with her dog. I would then refuse to discuss it any further.
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    • stiggley 4 hr. ago NTA if Luna is taking your seat, then she can also take your role as MOH. You can attend as a guest without the hassle of pandering to the whims of the bride and her pooch.

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